10+1 REAL questions/statements about the hijab I have encountered the past month:-
1) You are too young!
So if I wear the hijab at 22 years old, I am considered ‘too young’ to understand what I am doing, but if I murder someone, I am considered ‘old enough’ to be trialed?
2) Now you cannot wear all the normal clothes people wear!
On the contrary, wearing the hijab has given me more freedom in the way I dress. For the past years in my life, I have always felt very subconcious to what I wear as I felt that people were judging me from it. Now, I feel like I don’t have to conform to society’s expectations of how I look, and I only have to please one - Allah - and that is much easier for me, Alhamdulillah.
3) Why would you want your freedom taken away from you?
I am wearing the hijab today out of my own free will… which contradicts that my freedom has been taken away from me :) At least, that’s my opinion.
In any case if that is out of point, I still am doing every single thing that I have been doing Alhamdulillah. It only stops me from doing bad things (bad, even by a normal person’s standard) and I think that kind of freedom being taken away is actually a good thing!
4) So you mean this is permanent? You cannot take it off forever and ever?
Yes, this is a command from Allah, and InsyaAllah, I hope I remain steadfast in wearing it till I die.
5) So how come XX has now taken it off?
With regards to XX, let me make a comparison - By right, a married man is supposed to stay loyal to his wife. But how many men stray today? It’s all about making our own choices and having to face the consequences, good or bad.
6) So did you have to do some ritual over the weekend before you wear this?
Oh yes! The rituals are the best. We had to run circles around a bonfire while reciting some prayers and then provide an offering of 10 chickens (halal of course) to God. Hehe… No, darling, no rituals. It was just a simple act of waking up one morning and deciding to be a better Muslim, for Allah, InsyaAllah.
7) Oh.. Erm did you just perform the Hajj? Are you getting married soon? Are you pregnant?
No, I have not performed the hajj. No, I am not getting married soon. And no, nauzubillah, I am not pregnant. But I do hope I will get to experience all three in the future, InsyaAllah :)
8) So if you’re not any of the above, why does your head have a wrapping?
First of all, I am not a lollipop that I have a ‘wrapping’ around my head. It is called a hijab, and I wear it as it is a command by Allah on all Muslim women once they have reached puberty.
9) But YY is older than you and she’s not wearing it?
Again, like I said, Allah has given us the option to make choices. Some people choose to wear, some don’t. Maybe she will wear it one day, InsyaAllah.
when you’re honest, some people may think that you’re lying. and when you aren’t saying anything, they may assume the worst of your thoughts. when you say you’re happy, they may try to bring you down. and when you appear to be confident, they may try to instill doubt in your heart. when you’re trying to do good, they may try to tempt you away from it. and when you’re being kind to them, they may take advantage of it.
and that’s life. :)
the trick is to not let the opinions of others affect you except positively. to know yourself well before others, and drive yourself to your destination. to ignore those who try to bring you down or distract you from your course. to surround yourself with those who love you and support you. and to be kind and compassionate to even those who have once tried to hurt you. because you know that you have the strength not to crumble and act lowly under difficult situations. that we’re all brothers and sisters in need of one another. and that no one (except God and yourself) has the power to decide how you should live your life.
love what you’re doing. and find purpose in your actions. if you find that it’s not good, don’t do it.
“If Allah brings you to it, He will bring you through it.. In happy moments, praise Allah. In difficult moments, seek Allah. In quiet moments, worship Allah. In painful moments, trust Allah. In every moment, thank Allah.”—Facebook (Iman Almashor) (via essentia) (via halawiyyah) (via every20first)
Whenever Allah’s Apostle went to bed, he used to recite Surat-al-Ikhlas, Surat-al-Falaq and Surat-an-Nas and then blow on his palms and pass them over his face and those parts of his body that his hands could reach. And when he fell ill, he used to order me to do like that for him.
““Remember Allah in times of ease, and He will recognize you in times of distress. What hit you could not have missed you, what missed you could not have hit you. Remember that victory comes with patience, relief comes with affliction and ease comes with hardship”.”—(via nilabby) (via bakedfingers) (via risetotheoccasion)
Over time, I’ve found that Islam is such a beautiful religion as I learn to appreciate the meaning of what being a Muslim is and putting my faith in God. I find it a shame (and such a sad reality) it is that many of our born Muslims brothers and sisters have yet to see the beauty their religion and God, believing instead that it does nothing but limit them from living and enjoying their lives fully.
“It is not lawful for a Muslim to sever his ties with another Muslim for more than three days, in such a way that when they meet, the one who turns his face one way and the one other turns his face the other way. The better of these two is the one who makes Salaam first.”—(via prophetmuhammed) (via royal96197)
“Whoever works righteousness - whether male or female - while he [or she] is a true believer [of Islamic Monotheism] verily, to him, We will give a good life [in this world with respect, contentment and lawful provision], and We shall pay them certainly a reward in proportion to the best of what they used to do [i.e. Paradise in the Hereafter].”—Qur’an 16:97
The Holy Prophet (SAW) Said: 1) Four things that make your body sick:- a)Excessive talking b)Excessive sleeping c)Excessive eating d)Excessive meeting/outing with people
2) Four things that destroys the body:- a)Worrying b)Sorrow(Sadness/Grief) c)Hunger d)Sleeping late at night
3) Four things that make the face looking dull and haggard:- a)Lying b)Being disrespectful/ impudent (knowingly) c) Baseless arguements d)Excessive immorality (committing sins without fear)
4) Four things that make the face glow and shine:- a) Piety b) Loyalty c) Generosity and kindness d)Helpful to others without being asked
5) Four things make the Rizqi (Sustenance) stop:- a) Sleeping till late in the morning (from Fajr to sunrise) b) Not Performing Fardhu or Irregular in Prayers c) Laziness/Idleness d) Treachery/Dishonesty
6) Four things that bring/increase the Rizqi:- a) Staying up in the night in prayers b) Excessive Repentance c) Regular Charity d) Zikr (Remembrance of Allah)
“Who taught you to hate the color of your skin? Who taught you to hate the texture of your hair? Who taught you to hate the shape of your nose and the shape of your lips? Who taught you to hate yourself from the top of your head to the soles of your feet? Who taught you to hate your own kind? Who taught you to hate the race that you belong to so much so that you don’t want to be around each other? You know. Before you come asking Mr. Muhammad does he teach hate, you should ask yourself who taught you to hate being what God made you.”—Malcom X (via sequiloure) (via sanabananana) (via nilabby)
“Abûd-Dardâ (radhiya Allâhu´anh) said: “The one who advises his brother in secret has beautified him and the one who advises his brother openly has uglified him.””—(al-Amr bil-Ma´rûf wan-Nahî ´an-il-Munkar, p. 39, by Imâm Abu Bakr al-Khallâl (via sinsndeeds) (via nilabby)
“To love someone is nothing, to be loved by someone is something, to be loved by someone you love is exciting, but to be loved by Allah is everything. Allah loves you.”—From a book titled Tautan Hati. Super good read :) (via fingularity) (via 7liyana) (via ma-salaama) (via iluhhjew) (via nilabby)
“`Isa (Jesus) peace be upon him said: “Do not look at the wrong actions of people as if you were Lords. Look at your wrong actions as if you were slaves. Some people are afflicted by wrong actions and some people are protected from it. Be merciful to the people of affliction and praise Allah for his protection.”—Reported by Muwatta al-Imam Malik, p420, No.1791 (via hanyf) (via iluhhjew) (via risetotheoccasion) (via bakedfingers)
““We will show them Our signs in the universe and in their own selves, until it becomes manifest to them that This (Quran) is the truth”.”—[Holy Quran: 41:53] (via iluhhjew) (via risetotheoccasion) (via bakedfingers)
This is so, so, so true! These past few days, whenever I feel down or troubled, I will read the Qur’an if I have my wudhu, or just close my eyes and do some dhikr. Barely minutes later I will feel a sense of inner peace as all issues fade into oblivion.. Subhanallah :)
“And Allah has set forth an example for those who believe: the wife of Fir’awn [Pharaoh], when she said: ‘My Lord! Build for me a home with You in Paradise, and save me from Fir’awn [Pharaoh] and his work, and save me from the people who are Zalimun [polytheists, wrongdoers and disbelievers in Allah].’”—Qur’an 66:11
“A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials heavy and sudden fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts.”— Washington Irving (via justbesplendid) (via iluhhjew)
“Creation of woman from the rib of man; She was not made from his head to top him; Nor out of his feet to be trampled upon by him; but out of his side to be equal with him, Under his arm to be protected, And near his heart to be loved.”— Unknown (via justbesplendid) (via iluhhjew)